Life…the road that begins with an inevitable end. The people, places, pain and progress I’ve encountered during my journey has brought me to this part of life that introduces me to you. It also affords me the opportunity to share my experiences, emptiness and encouragement.
Lessons…the struggles, sorrow, strides and strength you succumb to that are all vital pieces needed for growth. My most teachable moment was when I decided to divorce my ex-husband. I gained a new perspective and appreciation for providers, husbands, fathers and bread-winners. Most times that position is a thankless one with standards that are expected of others but not a requirement from the one expecting this perfect behavior or routine. My wiser eyes have taught me to not engage in winless battle attempts to perfect imperfections.
Laughter…the mood adjuster that transitions you from somber, surreal or scary occasions in life. Many moments with family, friends and even strangers propelled me during dark, dismal and distant periods. Genuine growth grants you the privilege to not only laugh with others but have the confidence to laugh at yourself. My immature self was always the class clown. During my early childhood, I constantly provoked laughter while inciting fun and light-hearted moments that to this day, my friends and I giggle endlessly from the memories. Currently my mature self, is at times a clown, with class.
Love…the emotion that at times has been the source of breaking and healing my heart. It is the muse that encourages me to make wrongs right, know better and be better while constantly challenging the face that is a true or false reflection in my mirror. Despite my flaws and indiscretions, I’ve taught myself to love me even when others love me not. The people I’ve loved or learned from taught me to appreciate each moment because you never know if another one will follow.
My life taught me that defining yourself is more about going through a stage and less about increasing in age. I have a “living life list” that encourages me to live fearlessly, faithfully and functionally instead of buying into a societal “bucket list.” That wording alone, in my opinion, inspires folks to live only because dying is inevitable. In other words, travel to places, accomplish goals, explore uncommon things, meet new faces and dare to be you not because you are living to die but because you are “living” to live.